As far as my
memory recollects, I have never considered my mother to be a separate person. She is a part of me. Growing
up I had many instances with my mother and I would like to share some which had
a greater impact on me.
Equality
From my
childhood till now my mom has been treating me and my brother with equality.
Never has she imposed anything that would make me feel the difference between
me and my brother. My mother used to have this rule, whether it is my birthday
or my brother's both of us gets new dress and gifts. No partiality. Not only
birthdays, from simple accessories to education we were both treated even.
Patience
I really
don't understand where my mother gets so much patience from. I have never seen
her angry. I used to wonder whether anger, yelling and screaming doesn't exist in
her dictionary. When I started working, due to tension at work I used to vent
it out at my mother. She listens to all I talk and bare all I do and the final
words from her would be 'Are you hungry? I have cooked your favorite meal' that
makes me cry and calm down. She is the best.
Responsibility
When I was in my 9th grade I used to
ask for pocket money. As my friends used to have, I was also very much
interested in getting it. I was not convinced even after my dad had explained
me. By then, summer vacation had started and my mother gave me an idea to take
up any job at home and then ask for pocket money. I liked that idea and went
looking for job that I can do. Then I decided to get milk and newspaper every
morning from the nearby shop. Both my parents accepted and I did it for three
months and saved the money. Went shopping with my mother and got a gift for
dad's birthday and chocolates for my brother, mother and myself. I was very
happy about it. Then one day my mom told me that we don't take money to do
jobs/chores at home but she encouraged me in doing it, so that I don't get
disappointed and realize the value of money and also take responsibility in
household chores. From that day till my 12th grade I used to get milk and
newspaper without taking any money for the chore.
Being a Women
During my
college days, I used to feel women are weaker and this thought used to bother
me a lot. Being ragged, teased made my self-esteem very low. My mom noticed
this and came up to talk. I really hesitated to talk about it but she insisted.
We had a heated up discussion and I accused her of leaving the job as my dad
forced her to. She paused for a moment and gave her usual smile. After a few
minutes of silence, she spoke. It was never your dad who wanted me to leave the
job, it was you! I had taken that decision for my kids. Your dad supported me. "Do you find me weak? " She asked surprisingly. Doing what you want is always important, being a women should never be a hindrance. Your much more stronger than you think. Being a women is a blessing !
Our Relationship
There used
to be a lot of transparency between us. My mother used to be my dairy. I write
anything and everything in it. When I speak to her, I feel as if I'm speaking
to myself. She is the best listener that I have ever come across. Many
times I have asked her "why do you do all the sacrifice? Why do you miss a
television show for a cartoon? Why are we first on the priority list?" No
matter how many questions I asked she just smiled and said “I’m your MOM that's
why!"
Seeing her
from the day one, lot of things has changed in her appearance but the child
like innocent smile has not changed at all. That's what flashes in front of me
every time I think of her. Me being a mother now, I have started to respect my
mother even more. She has done everything for me to have a beautiful childhood
and a bright future. She has shaped me so well, that I did not even realize I'm
being shaped. She has been a sweet medicine in the right proportions. I try my
best to match her.
Overall, she has provided me with very Beautiful Childhood Memories to Cherish upon and Strong, Supportive Role Model
to look up to. Thank you Ma !
Thanks to Godrej for providing such an opportunity.
Thanks to Godrej for providing such an opportunity.
